BE BRAVE, SPEAK UP

You Owe It To Yourself

Have you ever caught yourself realising that the quality of your voice changes according to the content you are currently talking about? I have. And if you haven’t, I invite you to give it a shot.

Listen carefully to the quality and sound of your voice. If you are noticing it being croaky and feel like you have lost its ultimate quality and volume then maybe you are neglecting something and not voicing something that is important to you.

It’s not for nothing that people sing their heart out, when they are happy and joyful. Negative vibes have the ability to alter the quality of your voice too.

Ask yourself : “How true am I being to myself? Is the quality of my voice in line with how I want to feel?” Your voice is a good guide for this.

What are you not saying? What would you like to say? Are you afraid to say No?

Are you the perfect diplomat but are not really and truly saying what you really want to say?

You are not alone.

You have the choice to speak up and stand your ground, others do – so why don’t you?

Learn to trust yourself. Trust your inner voice and intuition.

Brené Brown is a research professor specializing in studying courage, vulnerability, shame and empathy. She is also famous for her Ted Talk Phenomenon on Vulnerability which emphasizes the importance of respecting our boundaries. Acknowledging these boundaries and remembering what is important to you is like a check-point for you to see whether you are being true to yourself. You are being brave by embracing your true self and even if you find it hard to start saying No at first, because a specific situation is going against your values, you are gently and efficiently claiming your power back. You are being authentic and are building up your integrity again.

And it might be a bit sticky at first, because this is new to you, but like working out those abs at the gym, it becomes more fluid and easier with time.

Extract of the book “Braving the wilderness – the quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone” P. 39 (Author: Brené Brown, 2017).

B – Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay?

R- Was I reliable? Did I do what I said I was going to do?

A- Did I hold myself accountable?

V- Did I respect the vault and share appropriately?

I- Did I act from my integrity?

N- Did I ask for what I needed? Was I non judgemental about needing help?

G- Was I generous toward myself?

 

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